About script/routine/gambit
1) What is a script in seduction?
When you talk to someone there’s always an opener, a middle, and a close, it’s a built-in structure. This is the structure of conversation itself, you can't avoid it.
This is the most basic form of a conversation:
Hi (opener) - How's it going? (middle) - Bye (close)
Claiming you don’t use a script? That’s pure nonsense.
2) What is a routine/gambit in seduction?
In short, these are the stories you say to keep the conversation going and this way, you'll always know what to say to avoid those awkward moments of silence in conversation..
Say that you have a 15 minute timeline when talking to a girl. Do you have what it takes to fill that timeline? That’s why there are all kinds of preconceived gambits, pieces of routine you insert in that timeline to keep the flow alive.
- A man who is a social person and has experience talking to other people will know what to say and what to do to have an interesting conversation.
- A man who is a beginner, one who has no experience in talking with other people will have difficulties to create an interesting conversation, that's why the routines/gambits exists.
For example:
You: Hi, how’s it going?
Her: [She replies]
Routine 1: I’m just curious, were you at XYZ Mall last night? There was this girl who looked a bit like you. She got into an argument with a security guard,
spilled her drink on him, they kicked her out, and the police showed up... I wanted to know what happened next. But now that I look at you more closely… you seem way more classy.
You don’t look like that type at all.
Her: [She reacts]
Routine 2: If I had to guess, I’d say you’re an accountant, you’ve got the glasses, long fingers, white shirt…
Her: No, I’m a cashier.
Routine 3: A cashier? I have a friend who told me about his ex who was a cashier. He said… [insert a funny story here].
Her: [She laughs or smiles]
Routine 4: Hey, hold on... You don’t look like a cashier (give a suspicious look), you’re funny and interesting, are you messing with me?
Give me your hand, let’s see if you’re really a cashier. [You inspect her hand playfully] Hmm… I don’t see any calluses from counting money… no ink stains either...
[You keep the vibe playful and teasing]
This simple example shows how routines help you structure the flow.
It sets you on the right path, and it becomes way easier to keep the conversation going because you’ve already created a context to build on...
What some people are saying about routine/gambits
1. Some people make fun of routines and say: "Hahaha, and what do you do when you don't have a routine, you don't know what to say...".
RE: It’s a flawed way of thinking assuming someone will always rely on routine after routine.
The idea is to learn a few routines to handle silence a few times, not to depend on them forever. They’re just a plan B for when your mind goes blank and you run out of things to say...
It’s like learning a few jokes and using them in conversation. Once you run out, no problem, you’re not relying on them. But they help you create a relaxed, engaging vibe.
2. Some people say that when you use a script, you sound robotic, like you don't know what to say or what to do.
RE: Are you robotic when you tell someone a joke you heard from someone else? You don’t need to memorize it word for word, you only need the punchline, you will adapt it, improvise, and bring your own style and personality into the story. Saying it’s robotic makes no sense.
3. Many people say that "seduction" is a natural process, there is nothing to learn!
RE: Well.... swimming is also a natural process, every wild animal knows how to swim, but a human needs to be taught how to swim otherwise he can't! Yes, you can learn to swim naturally by trial and error, and you can also learn how to talk to women by trial and error. If you want to learn that way, go ahead! If you want to learn faster, then sit down and learn the theories.
4. Some people say if you don't need to learn any script/routines/theory, just "be yourself", say whatever you want, be honest.
RE: Are you a social person? Can you hold a conversation? Kudos to you! Go in "free style" mode. Don't learn any joke or routines/gambits, there is no need to learn anything.
However, if you know you are not a social person, you know you have problems keeping a conversation going, then you definitely need a routine/gambit, because
these things will give you an edge and will easily create a topic to talk about. Once you’ve got experience, you won’t need routines or gambits, but in the beginning, they’re worth gold.
5. Other people mock the seduction concepts saying that if a girl is not attracted to you, the seduction concept will not work. They say a girl is either attracted to you or she doesn't like you. Well... what they don't mention is the category in the middle, when the attraction level is in the middle, and now it's up to you what you do and what you say to increase or decrease the attraction level..